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Anonymous asked: What are the signs of emotional abuse?

pandemiclaughter:

monkeyfrog:

fegeleh:

the-goddamazon:

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

The last one is a killer and very important.

this is extremely important tw #abuse

Always reblob.

No longer walking on eggshells and being able to be completely me has been an amazing transition in my life.

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dynastylnoire:

Or give a warning or something? 

Ughhhhh

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trebled-negrita-princess:

hoelita:

moonfuls:

hoelita:

do white people know how to write love poems without mentioning cigarettes

Do people know how to write text posts without mentioning white people?

how are you talking without lips?

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Smiling black woman next to Corbett on his website was Photoshopped

afro-dominicano:

you think we playing when we say they see us as props of self-elevation.

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fckyeahprettyafricans:

In Ghana we say no
Ghanaian celebs against skin bleaching 
Actress and TV personality, Ama K Abebrese earlier this year, kicked off a campaign to fight against skin bleaching and skin toning. The initiative has now reached its peak with billboards popping up in Accra and Kumasi to send across her message.
With the help of Hamamat, winner of Miss Malaika Ghana 2012, Actress Nana Ama Mcbrown and actress/singer Paulina Oduro, Ama K is taking her spreading her campaign wide and across all media. Her choice of Nana Ama McBrown, and Pauline Oduro, clearly sends the message that the campaign is not against light skin but a message for women in particular to love their skin, no matter the shade or tone!
Ama K posted on her Instagram: “Some of the billboards of ‘Say NO to skin bleaching/skin toning’ campaign are out on the streets of Accra and Kumasi. #Ghana. Have you spotted any of them? Tell us where. #ilovemynaturalskintone”
Hamamat is a former beauty queen and model. She was crowned Miss Malaika Ghana in 2006. She is an advocate to the ‘Say NO to skin bleaching/skin toning’ campaign. Her natural skintone can be described as dark/chocolate and she says ‘I Love my Natural Skintone’. #saynotoskinbleaching
Nana Ama McBrown is a multiple award winning celebrated Ghanaian actress. She is an advocate for the ‘Say NO to skin bleaching/toning campaign. Her natural skintone can be described as caramel. She says; ‘I Love my Natural Skintone’. #saynotoskinbleaching
Paulina Oduro aka ‘Aunty Paulina’ is a singer, actress and TV personality with over 30 years experience in the entertainment industry. She is mixed raced and she is an advocate for the ‘Say No to skin bleaching/skin toning #campaign. Her natural skin tone can be described as caramel and she says ‘I Love my natural skin tone’. #saynotoskinbleaching
‘I Love my Natural Skintone’. Say NO to skin bleaching/skin toning campaign. #saynotoskinbleaching Loving the skin I’m in. Loving my dark skin, embracing the beautiful chocolate hue that God blessed me with. He made no mistakes with my skin. My black is indeed beautiful. Join the campaign and upload your pictures and tag ‘I love my natural skintone’ and share your views, let’s go
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dontbeabrat:

3modagawd:

dynastylnoire:

rebelbaes:

thepoliticalfreakshow:

POLICE BRUTALITY/TERRORISM STRIKES AGAIN: Witnesses Say A Utah African-American Man Was Running Away From Police When They Shot & Murdered Him [TW: Racism, Ethnocentrism, White Privilege]
An attorney for the family of the 22-year-old black man who was fatally shot by Utah police last week says the evidence suggests he was running away—contradicting earlier reports that he had “lunged” at the police officers.
Darrien Hunt attracted police attention Wednesday morning outside Saratoga Springs when he allegedly began walking around with a samurai sword. His family later described the sword as a “harmless 3-foot souvenir sword with a rounded edge” purchased at a gift shop, the AP reports.
Hunt was reportedly shot at least four times and died on the street outside a Panda Expressrestaurant.
Police initially claimed they shot him after he “brandished the sword and lunged toward the officers with the sword,” Utah County Chief Deputy Attorney Tim Taylor told reporters.
But Hunt’s mother—and some witnesses—say otherwise.
"They killed my son because he’s black. No white boy with a little sword would they shoot while he’s running away," Susan Hunt told the Deseret Times. “Those stupid cops thought they had to murder over a toy. This is my baby. This is my family. And they ruined my family.”
According to the LA Times, there’s evidence that suggests the shooting may not have been warranted:

According to Salt Lake City attorney Randall K. Edwards, an independent autopsy conducted Saturday at the behest of Hunt’s family showed Hunt had been shot “numerous times,” none from the front. 
"This is consistent with statements made by witnesses on the scene, who report that Darrien was shot to death while running away from the police," Edwards said in a statement provided to the Los Angeles Times on Sunday. "It would appear difficult, if not impossible, to reconcile these facts with the story released by the Utah County Attorney’s Office that Darrien was lunging toward the officers when he was shot. We continue to hope that a full investigation will reveal the whole truth about this tragedy."

The LA Times does note, however, that Edwards declined to identify the pathologist or provide reporters with a copy of the report.
[image via ABC 4 Utah]
Source: Gabrielle Bluestone for Gawker

You know shit cray when a white mom’s black son can’t even make it to 30. 

they don’t care if your mom is white when you look black


Next person to tell me mixed niggas are safe from this racist bullshit is getting slapped

^^^^^^^ what he said times 80
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dynastylnoire:

cublombianradfem:

cublombianradfem:

9929111:

TW:RAPE
The profile of the man above me is the profile of my rapist. He raped me (10-19-14), and I am sharing his OkCupid profile to reveal the details.
He’s from Miami, FL and he lies about his age online (in person he told me he was 27, he’s actually 31) and he led me on with food and drinks (I’m 18 and can’t drink in the first place) and later on raped me in his home.
His name is Kenneth. I don’t know his last name, I’m sorry.
I’m so shaken by this that I think this post is incomprehensible. I’m sorry. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Power to you all.

Hi sisters, this post is about MY RAPIST and this happened to me last night. Thank you for your time in signal boosting this.

THIS HAPPENED TO ME LAST NIGHT 
PLEASE REBLOG AND TAG WITH TAGS LIKE #MIAMI, #SOUTHFLORIDA, ETC

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOST
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darkskinwomen:

DSW - Dark Skin Women ❤ 
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To share your picutues on Instagram @darkskinfwomen & tag #DSW #darkskinwomen :)
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yo-slimdickens:

She look like Tae !
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karlasthoughts:

thatfriendlyblackguy:

my favorite quote from Ann Lamott.

Wow
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gavinscreamingmichaelyelling:

time-is-a-many-splendored-thing:

douglasmurphy:

rainbowcoffin:

c-h-0-w:

nightwife:

Always reblog

Woah

well he really should have worn more protective clothing if he didn’t want that to happensounds to me like he was asking for it

Are we really sure he was actually shot and decapitated? Idk, sounds like something he would’ve made up. Guys make false decapitation accusations all the time, you know. 

If he didn’t want to be decapitated, he shouldn’t have worn a shirt that showed off his neck

I mean, not all woman decapitate people. I’m not like that.
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It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt.
-Tom Gates (via suspend)

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